So often, we are our harshest critic. \u00a0We may have the ability to show empathy and compassion for others, but when it comes to ourselves, it is difficult. \u00a0Thoughts run through our head “why did I do that? \u00a0What was I thinking? \u00a0I’m so stupid. \u00a0I always mess things up” etc. \u00a0We seem to trust that these unhelpful thoughts are right and that there is some character flaw within us that may not be fixable.<\/p>\n
Dr. Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, LMFT, developed a model that he calls Internal Family Systems. \u00a0Basically the model suggests that every person is made up of parts (an angry part, critical part, care-taking part, controlling part, hurt part, etc.) as well as their core Self. \u00a0At times, a person’s parts may take over the Self, and people begin to believe that they are their parts. \u00a0It becomes difficult for them to know or find who they are deep down as a person.<\/p>\n
Compassion is one quality of the Self-led person. \u00a0When we are able to find compassion for the parts of ourselves that we often hate, we are connecting with our Self at our core. \u00a0The discovery of one’s Self is amazingly healing, powerful, and life-changing. \u00a0We suddenly become less fearful of ourselves and of our place in the world and we gain a sense of Confidence (another quality of the Self) that we never knew we had. \u00a0Our view about ourselves, others, and the world seems to change.<\/p>\n
As a therapist, I am honored that my clients allow me to be part of their journey in their discovery of Self. \u00a0While it may feel scary to begin the process, they put some level of trust into me as their guide, and together we begin to discover who they are. \u00a0 According to Dr. Schwartz, everyone has a Self that displays Calmness, Clarity, Curiosity, Compassion, Confidence, Courage, Creativity, and Connectedness. \u00a0How empowering it is to know that everyone has the potential to discover their Self!<\/p>\n
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Schwartz, R. (2001)\u00a0Introduction To The Internal Family Systems Model<\/em>. Oak Park, Illinois: Trailheads Publications<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" So often, we are our harshest critic. \u00a0We may have the ability to show empathy and compassion for others, but when it comes to ourselves, it is difficult. \u00a0Thoughts run through our head “why did I do that? \u00a0What was I thinking? \u00a0I’m so stupid. \u00a0I always mess things up” etc. \u00a0We seem to trust […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/molzerandthomastherapy.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/molzerandthomastherapy.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/molzerandthomastherapy.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/molzerandthomastherapy.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/molzerandthomastherapy.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=26"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/molzerandthomastherapy.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":27,"href":"https:\/\/molzerandthomastherapy.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26\/revisions\/27"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/molzerandthomastherapy.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=26"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/molzerandthomastherapy.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=26"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/molzerandthomastherapy.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=26"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}